maybe i over-reacted...

I'm halfway through the BOOKS and i've learnt quite a few things, the most important lesson so far being that i've over-reacted.

I better set the record straight before i sabotage my daughter's chances of getting hitched. Yes i can just see it . Mothers warning their sons, "No, Ah Boy, you can't marry her. Haven't you heard? She's incredibly violent... Her own mother said it, so it must be true! What if you get into an argument with her and she TaBAH you?"

But seriously, i HAVE misrepresented Glory, and i'm not saying this just to up my chances of one day being a grandmother.

See, when i read the books, there were so many examples of difficult toddlers, and Glory's nowhere near that league. Put in perspective, she's an ANGEL. Even at her worst, she's just a very normal toddler.

And, as it turns out, although the word TaBAH has now become so commonly used it's in the running to become The Toddler's Lexicon New Word of the Year, it is actually not as violent as we first thought - it is sometimes used as a funny word, a sound word. It's meaning is more like "Watch out!", or "Look at me, Listen to me, Pay Attention to me" so she uses it not just when she's frustrated, but also when she wants to play.

Anyway, she hasn't been hitting in a while. I think this girl actually gets it when adults tell her not to, she doesn't even need further punishment. Like a couple of months back, she decided that pulling Mama's hair was fun. I put on a serious, displeased face, gravely told her not to, and she cried! And since then, she hasn't pulled my hair. In the same way, she now seems to be much better at expressing her frustrations without hitting.

She's also a lot less territorial. When we first put her in school, she wouldn't let anyone come near us. She guarded us like a watchdog, and when she saw another toddler heading our way, she'd get up, hold her hands up and gave a warning bark. ("DUFF!" she blasted) If the intruder didn't get it, she'd push them off by the forehead. After the first victim, the other kids got it and never dared venture near us again. Even when they wanted to, they'd back off at her DUFF.

Today, i peeked at her when she was in class. She was sitting among a group of children, drinking from her bottle. A classmate was fiddling with her bottle, but Glory seemed quite ok with it. Ha, i really got a kick out of seeing that scene, coz
1. Glory wasn't pushing her away or hitting her for touching her bottle.
2. Glory wasn't clinging on to an adult . Hooray for independence!
3. Glory was hanging out with kids!! She has friends! (i was a little worried she would be antisocial)
4. Glory has a female friend! =) (i was a little worried she would only hang out with boys)

Seriously, it's been fun seeing her grow as she gets used to school. Sure, the perpetually snotty nose is a bit of problem (and an eyesore) , but she's a lot less shy and clingy now. We went for a Christmas party last night and she actually sat around and smiled and made "small talks" with unfamiliar uncles and aunties. She understands when i tell her to wait, she even sits down, cross her legs, and repeats "Wait (for) Mama here."

Haha... i love her to bits, that cute little spark.
=)
Get in line, boys. And prospective mothers-in-laws.